Dating in your thirties



Iā€™ve been single for about nine years and I
decided last year that I was going to ā€œget back out thereā€ it didnā€™t end great for me but iā€™ve downloaded the apps again and iā€™m going to see what happens.

When I was younger, late teens early twenties I had so much confidence and was so upfront and open, iā€™d ask anyone I fancied if they wanted to meet up or whatever but I feel a lot different now, I am thirty two at the end of this year and I honestly have the absolute worst anxiety about even speaking to people online, never mind meeting up with them.

Everyone around me is getting married and having children but I personally donā€™t want all that and never have, so I didnā€™t feel like I needed to rush to find someone, I assumed one day weā€™ll find each other when the time is right. Having said that, it doesnā€™t seem to be happening the way I hoped it would so I guess I need to start making some moves and putting in some effort.

Some of the messages I have received already have made me question wether online is the best place for me to meet someone (honestly what the hell is wrong with people?!) but then Iā€™ve had a few which restore my faith in online dating. 

I havenā€™t been on the apps too long so I donā€™t really have much to say in that regard but I think I might start documenting my dating journey. I think it might be a fun thing to look back and and re read some of the things that happened, in the future and I donā€™t know about you guys but I absolutely love reading about peoples dating mishaps or dating success stories.

Watch this space, I guess.




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